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Fauxpologists like Jian Ghomeshi: How to Deal with Them

Fame is power. Abusive celebs have proven they can’t be trusted with power.

By Andrea Zanin 24 Sep 2018 | TheTyee.ca

Andrea Zanin, a.k.a. Sex Geek, is a Canadian BDSM writer and educator. She is pursuing her PhD in gender, feminist and women’s studies at York University. She blogs at sexgeek.wordpress.com. Find her on Twitter at @sexgeekAZ.

In late October 2014, just-fired CBC radio host Jian Ghomeshi published a Facebook post claiming that he was being persecuted for being into BDSM. That same night, a Toronto Star article detailed the first few of many accusations against Ghomeshi. That he punched women in the head, choked them, sexually assaulted them.

As a long-time blogger about BDSM, I wrote an essay considering these discrepancies from a kink-positive, anti-sexual-assault perspective. In the ensuing days, as media interest in BDSM suddenly exploded, I spoke with numerous reporters. It felt important to explain to mainstream audiences, as so many have done before me, that yes, you can do a lot of pretty intense things in the context of risk-aware, negotiated, consensual kink — but that doing them without fully informed consent and safety precautions absolutely is assault.

As the media firestorm intensified, I began to realize that the only reason reporters wanted to talk about kink was because Ghomeshi had brought it up. BDSM was nowhere to be found in his accusers’ stories, and many of them explicitly stated that what he did was non-consensual. It started to feel like I was participating in a narrative of Ghomeshi’s making, when in truth, we should listen to how his accusers described their experiences. So I began to turn down interviews and tell reporters to speak with sexual assault victim advocates instead. By the time Ghomeshi went to trial, he was no longer talking about BDSM, and it was not part of his defence strategy.

Last week, Ghomeshi published a “comeback” essay in the New York Review of Books. This time, he doesn’t mention BDSM at all, aside from briefly noting that he has no “lifestyle” with which to satisfy the desires of the women who email him seeking sex. (So much for being a proud kinkster.) But once again, he’s nonetheless shaping a story that’s completely at odds with what his accusers — 24 at last count, including one man — have said about his behaviour.

Lamenting limelight lost

According to a fact check piece by the Canadaland reporter Jesse Brown, who originally helped break the story with the Star, Ghomeshi is clearly still in the business of minimizing and obfuscating key details: the nature of the accusations against him, the number and type of charges that were laid, the results of his trials, and the other accusations made against him dating back 20 years prior to his firing from the CBC — everything from personal rebukes to workplace harassment complaints. Plus ça change...

This time, his story is about what it’s like to be publicly shamed (though he glosses over the reasons for it). What it’s like to be treated as a confessional by countless men who have committed assaults and never been caught (though he expresses no horror that so many assaulters exist). What it’s like to have to refrain from name-dropping major celebrities to impress women (how heartbreaking).

I have no doubt these are all difficult, but then, so is being punched in the head and choked against your will. So is giving a blow job in fear of further violence. So is being sexually harassed in your workplace. So is feeling, for months or years or a lifetime, that you might not ever be believed because a whole culture silenced you while enabling your attacker to go on doing to others what he did to you.

The astute reader will note that I’m discussing what Ghomeshi is accused of doing as though he actually did it, which indeed is my opinion, despite him not being found guilty in court. To begin with, the judge who acquitted him of five charges was careful to state that his decision didn’t mean the assaults had not occurred. Let’s also recall that his deal with the court required him to apologize to one co-worker for sexually assaulting her at work, an act at least one witness was ready to verify. Most people, including at least one former prosecutor, would assume that to apologize for an act is to admit you’ve committed it. (True to form, Ghomeshi, through his lawyer, claimed the apology was not an “admission.”)

Here’s the thing. People who see a criminal court as the sole arbiter of fact are missing both the point and the truth. The legal system is not built to handle sexual assault, and consequently, only a tiny percentage of such cases ever result in a guilty verdict. The vast majority of sexual assaults are never reported at all, let alone end up in court. This isn’t because they didn’t happen. It’s because the system is set up to make it extremely hard for victims to win. From the myriad social factors that discourage reporting to wildly inconsistent policing to judges who don’t properly apply existing sexual assault laws or understand the effects of trauma, accusers are hampered at every step. The discrepancy between sexual assault statistics and court convictions tells us that the system is failing — not that sexual assaults don’t occur.

Comeback for what?

There is a vast area between being held criminally responsible in a court of law and having not done any harm. Knowing this, we have developed other systems to try and fill that gap. Whisper networks, call-outs, hashtags, bystander intervention campaigns, white ribbons, campus walk-safe programs, late-night by-request bus stops, bright lights in parking lots, convex mirrors in subway station corners, safe calls, consent cards, updated sex-ed curricula that teach the importance of consent, self-defence classes, bad trick lists, art installations, media stories, public pressure, protest marches, accountability pods, workplace harassment policies, conference attendance bans, revocations of memberships and licenses to practice, firings. It’s nowhere near enough, but then, jail isn’t a trouble-free solution either, given the racism and classism built into the carceral system right alongside the misogyny.

The work of preventing sexual assault is cultural work. It has been going on for decades, and it uses every tool it can lay its hands on. It includes legal system reform, but it’s vastly bigger than that. It is great and terrible work and I don’t expect it to fully succeed in my lifetime, if ever. But if it can make a dent, countless people may be spared the devastation of sexual assault.

In contrast, the comeback narrative for celebrities like Ghomeshi who have been accused of serial sexual harassment and assault focuses on selfish, perpetrator-centred questions such as: When has an accused assaulter paid their dues? What constitutes a sufficient amount of public shaming? How long do they have to stand in the corner before they get to return to the spotlight? The comeback story is not truly concerned with or for sexual assault victims; it relies on the idea of doing time, a mentality rooted in the carceral framework and just as narrow.

That said, I do think part of the cultural work of preventing sexual assault includes answering the question: When can they come back?

To me, the answer is: Never.

Jian Ghomeshi needs to stay out of print and off the radio. Louis CK needs to stay off the stage and Bill Cosby off our TV screens. Les Moonves and Harvey Weinstein need to never be in a position to green-light so much as an infomercial.

Fauxpologies

There are literally millions of other things these celebrities can do with their lives — perfectly respectable work that involves never being in the spotlight, or controlling it, ever again. If accused assaulters are already the very fortunate beneficiaries of a broken system that has kept them out of jail, that is already far more than they deserve. Let them go back to being on par with the rest of us who have never had their platform or power in the first place. Welcome to the plebeian existence. If that’s punishment, your sense of entitlement is grossly inflated.

These men cannot be trusted with power. Any power, but certainly not the power to be cultural influencers. That they don’t grasp this means they haven’t learned a damn thing, and aren’t even as minimally remorseful as they pretend to be in their PR-mediated fauxpologies.

That’s why it’s also quite fitting, and not at all ironic, that NYROB editor Ian Buruma had to resign in the wake of his decision to publish Ghomeshi’s piece. Buruma attempted to raise devil’s-advocate questions about accused sexual predators, as though these were fresh, innocent new ideas presented in good faith and not long-entrenched patriarchal strategies to sow further doubt about sexual assault. His line of thinking was shut down as the public raised a huge outcry on social media. His shaping of public culture is being rejected. I hope this sends a strong message to culture-makers everywhere.

Ghomeshi’s reflections, soaked in false introspection and dripping with self-pity, should never have been published. He should be grateful he’s not behind bars. And he should shut the fuck up.  [Tyee]

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