Girls Hating Girls
Why we don't cut Britney or Amy any slack.
Why do we love to hate Amy Winehouse?
The tabloids paint Britney Spears' as a neglectful, deranged, drug-addicted mother who frequently neglects and even endangers her children, and whose partying ways are responsible for her demise. The video and images of Amy Winehouse smoking crack cocaine have been widely circulated, along with a flurry of recent articles alleging that her frequent drug use is to blame for the decline of her health -- including emphysema and her stark emaciation.
But a video of Heath Ledger hanging out at a drug-fueled party before his death didn't make it to air on Entertainment Tonight, nor appear elsewhere. New York coroners ruled that Ledger's recent death was due to an accidental overdose of prescription medication, with few media outlets even casting other aspersions. And when Owen Wilson was hospitalized last year after an apparent suicide attempt, not only did his plight inspire only one cover story in US Weekly, but news coverage was almost entirely sympathetic and respectful, often citing psychiatrists' explanations of the intricacies of mental illness and depression.
Sure, plenty of male stars get excoriated by the media -- Mel Gibson to name one. But overwhelmingly, as a recent New York Times article alleges, "Men who fall from grace are treated with gravity and distance, while women in similar circumstances are objects of derision, titillation and black comedy."
Britney's tears and cautionary tales
Last week a conference called Going Cheap? Female celebrity in the tabloid, reality and scandal genres, held at the University of East Anglia in the U.K., attempted to get to the bottom of this paradox and "our" fascination with self-destructive female celebrites. Papers included Britney's tears: The abject female celebrity in post-emotional society and Hooker, victim and/or doormat: Lindsay Lohan and the culture of celebrity notoriety, among others.
Unsurprisingly, some celebrity journalists disagreed with the symposium's premise, including Gordon Smart, who edits The Sun. He told the BBC that the preponderance of female stars is purely coincidence. "At the moment there just happens to be cluster of female celebrities that are going through difficult times."
But Diane Negra, a professor of film and television studies at the host university, said the coverage of women is definitely more judgmental than the coverage of men. And that while a media story about a drug-addicted man is likely to focus on or even celebrate his expected return (as with Robert Downey Jr.'s recent Iron Man performance) coverage of female celebs is more likely to focus on their (self-inflicted) demise and act as "cautionary tales."
"We seem to have a lot more fixed ideas about what women's lives should be like than we do of men," she said.
Women dare not have it all
Why? "When we use female celebrities this way, we see them failing and struggling, they serve as proof that for women the work-life balance is impossible. Can you have it all? The answer these stories give again and again is 'absolutely not.'"
In the recent New York Times piece, several tabloid editors agreed they handle female celebrities differently but said the reason is due to readership, not sexism. US Weekly's readership is 70 per cent female, and People's is over 90 per cent.
Janice Min, the editor-in-chief of US Weekly, said that putting a solo man on the cover is "cover death. Women don't want to read about men unless it's through another woman: a marriage, a baby, a breakup."
So the only coverage of Ledger's death focused on how his estranged wife and child were coping, not on any of his history. And with Owen Wilson, much of the coverage focused on Kate Hudson -- whether their recent breakup was to blame for his troubles, and how she was reacting.
I hate you because you're famous
The conference touched on another reason for increasing negative tone: public concern about the growing number of celebrities who are famous simply for being famous, like Paris Hilton or the stars of reality TV shows.
Cary Cooper, a professor of psychology and health at Lancaster University in England, said readers and viewers want to see celebrities struggle because "it makes people feel good." Celebrities "look like they lead a golden life, and yet it doesn't make them happy. So in a way it justifies our humdrum existence."
But while readership demographics explain why there's more coverage of bad girls than bad boys, and public resentment about rich but talentless celebs explains why much coverage generally is negative in tone, those two factors don't entirely explain why the media is more critical of ailing female celebs than of male ones.
Lightning rods for sexism?
Negra has one more theory, that the "massive coverage these women draw is only a little bit about themselves…These women operate as lightning rods for a lot of other concerns."
And for a lot of negative sentiment about women, generally.
"Urgh, I'd never thought about that, but it's true," a 38 year old female friend groaned when I told her about the conference's premise.
"I hate to admit it," said the same friend, one of the most positive, enthusiastic people I know, "but I do it. I cut down other women." Two other friends chimed in and agreed they do it too.
A 12-year-old boy, also sitting at the table, said that the girls in his class are mean to each other. "They're always saying other girls are fat. And 'I hate her, I don't like her.'"
A few years ago, a 60-year-old mother of two sons told me she was so glad she'd had boys because "girls are all so prissy and frilly and catty. Yuck."
I hate you because I hate myself
An unrelated study, released this week, showed that glaring sexism is easy to brush off, but subtle sexism leads to self-criticism, self-loathing and poor performance on tests.
Researchers set up a mock job interview in which women were asked sexist questions, then all were told they didn't get the job. Half the women were told the reason was that they were women -- and their self-esteem remained intact. The other half were told they didn't get the job because they'd given wrong answers, and subsequently experienced low self-image and poorer performance on IQ and other tests.
Hasn't everyone heard somewhere that people who bully and criticize others are ones who have low self esteem themselves?
So isn't it possible that the increasing appetite for tabloid stories that attack other women could actually be because those female readers are experiencing more subtle sexism and therefore self-loathing?
The more that happens, the more it does, apparently. Rebecca Roy, a psychotherapist who has several clients in the entertainment industry, was quoted saying the double standard in public treatment of bad girls and bad boys can actually intensify the destructive behavior of those female stars, pushing them to further depths of substance abuse and erratic behavior.
So is the solution for me to learn to love Britney and Lindsay?
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Fame and fortune flows to kids of the famous fortunate. - Doctor, Heal Thyself
Dr. Phil used to be my guilty pleasure. How he lost me and his moral ground. - Modelling Bad Behaviour
Mocking 'Top Model' was my group sport, but the joke's on me.




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towelpower
3 years ago
Good article, thanks
Good article, thanks Vanessa.
I'm a male who grew up with two sisters and their many female friends around the house when I was young, so I often witnessed the cruel double standard you speak of.
I think the negative sentiment toward other females is definitely self esteem-based, as you point out. What always shocks me is the complete lack of empathy shown towards other women. Is it really so hard to put yourself in someone else's position? You would hope that one's own low self esteem would lead to an understanding of how crappy those same feelings are for others. But sadly, and this holds true for both men and women, we're rarely able to get over ourselves and just be the bigger person.
In the words of Morrissey: it's so easy to laugh, it's so easy to hate, it takes strength to be gentle and kind.
nightbloom
3 years ago
Good article! While
Good article!
While "celebrity culture" analogies are of limited usefulness in understanding real human dynamics, they've shown us a few things that we can observe in everyday life.
Yes, women can be bad when it comes to shooting each other down. Based on my own observations, I've concluded that many (not all) women are *extremely* competitive with other women, but unlike men this competition quickly gets nasty & evil for two reasons: (1) the need to not *look* like she's competing (so it's all fake-nice, behind-the-back, and below-the belt) and (2) the absence of a male honour code ("sportsmanship").
I've also noticed that this competition typically comes from peers, but can also take a totally different form when it comes from older women in the workplace. Debutantes need to watch out for the Office Trouts. They'll cut you, eat you alive, smile nicely the whole time, and leave you convinced that you were the problem. I've seen many female colleagues subjected to this - all that motherly guidance from the "sisters" turns into a hyena-feed when you're not there.
One more comment on male celebrities: the ones who are cut some slack are those who come clean (or they die - the ultimate form of accountability). The Hollywood mea culpa is a genre unto itself. Men are just better at it, because they get lots of life-practice along the way. Women aren't too good at admitting responsibility when things go wrong. I've seldom seen a woman in the hotseat actually square her shoulders and take the hit on the nose like a man, even when she's 100% responsible. There's a diminished standard of accountability that applies to women. There's absolutely nothing apologetic, contrite or conscientious about post-scandal Britney, Lindsay or Hilton. Robert Downey Jr. not only did his mea culpa, but he also did hard jail time in a real prison. He was 110% accountable.
realisticman
3 years ago
What about their métier?
The solution would be that private lives of successful people not be be of such obsessive interest and that these people's work be the subject of interest instead.
The cult of celebrity can probably be traced back to Photoplay Magazine (1911) is perhaps the source.
Low self-esteem felt by the audience may well be at the root of the cult. Most people react with weird fascination towards the famous, instantly imagining that they are somehow different from them and that they could never be like them. Sadly this is a complete myth.
Celebrity spotting is a shallow sport much like sticking pins in a map after traveling through an exotic region. Like going to Paris and having to see the Eiffel Tower and the Louvre but never actually experiencing the feeling of daily life. The ersatz freaks of Las Vegas such as New York, New York or Luxor epitomize this strange collecting of accomplishments, and in Vegas the depth of experience is not even at a superficial level. Snapshots are taken and later displayed on a knickknack shelf back home, like proud trophies. A photo showing the shallow traveler with an arm draped over a statue of a movie star in Hollywood is an achievement. The celebrity magazines and tv shows fill in for the real thing of travel-spotting. The young sometimes become groupies.
Even the famous practice cultism themselves.
In societies where individual achievement is noted this phenomenon is likely to endure and those overwhelmed by their own success will continue to re-seek anonymity often with self-destructive behaviour and people will slow down to gawk at their accidents.
Yammer
3 years ago
Generalizing from a small sample
The gossip press does not condemn women, as much as it makes great sport of shows of obnoxiousness.
Paris, Britney, Lindsay, and Amy are linked not just by gender but by transgressing social norms in terms of underwear and, in the case of the latter, being a notorious crackhead who cancels shows. The least egregious of these is Paris Hilton, who is paying the price for her Simple Life persona. The rest have had professional and/or personal crises resulting from public overintoxication.
The gossip press is avid to jump on the intoxicated misbehavior of George Michael, Brandon Davis, Dog the Bounty Hunter, Alec Baldwin, David Hasselhoff, etc. etc. so the case for gender bias in reporting scandals is not strong.
For an example of a crushingly one-sided villification of a man, consider the press treatment of Tom Cruise vs. Katie Holmes, uniformly portrayed as that of a tiny, cackling Blackbeard and his petrified victim.
This is not to say that women are treated absolutely fairly, since beauty fascism is far more absolute.
Nor is it to say that celebrity reportage is respectful. In fact it is always highhanded, hypocritical and often unreadably vicious. South Park has a particularly good take on this.
BC Mary
3 years ago
Dr Henry Morgenthaler
Here's the test.
Do anti-abortionists hate Dr Morgenthaler because he's a man?
Or do they hate Dr Henry Morgenthaler because he freed women from a certain kind of tyranny? (Ref. Belgium case where a man fathered 7 children by his own daughter who he kept imprisoned for 24 years.)
Anti-abortionists say "all life is sacred" but they also say the Death Penalty is legal and justifiable in other areas of human error.
But it can't be both.
So is it mostly women who protest against abortion? No.
Do men feel strongly that women must give birth no matter how conception occurred? Some do.
The whole matter seems to be: what causes hatred? How are we taught to turn against our own species? And what keeps the hate-factories going day and night?
Needs more study.
ME2
3 years ago
RMan & BC Mary
RMan, for a celebrity, if the gossip columnists, etc, ignore you, you're dead in the water. Publicity - of almost any kind - is money in the bank. As Liberace said re his detractors "Yes, I cried all the way to the bank"
BC Mary, by far the majority of the anti-abortionists I've met are women.
Concerning Dr Morgenthaler being awarded the Order of Canada, he is obviously a hero to a very significant number of Canadians. And opponents of this couldn't possibly be more distressed than I was when Lyin' Brian got his. To each his own.
nightbloom
3 years ago
Quote:Anti-abortionists say
That's certainly not the Roman Catholic position.
Yes it is, actually.
As do some women. Viewpoints on abortion don't follow the gender divide, contrary to what some propagandists like to pretend. Some of the most pro-choice people I know are men, and some of the most ardently anti-choice are women.
I can understand both positions on an intellectual level. They’re both legitimate viewpoints. The Pro-Life movement is law-abiding and is a legitimate expression of citizen engagement. Chrétien was right when he stated that there’s an uneasy truce on this issue in this country that should not be gratuitously be disturbed. Justice Beverly McLaughlin’s activism in pushing Morgenthaler’s was gravely inadvisable. It’s waving a red flag in the face of the restrained bull - Pure hubris and overconfidence on the part of the liberal-nihilist secular evangelicals that populate the legal class in this country.
bikechick
3 years ago
The thing I have to disagree
The thing I have to disagree with on this one is that it is society that demands this sort of press. Society will take the news that is given to them. Look at the Evening News Channels in Japan. They were always largely positive and yet people still kept watching.
Journalism has put it's interest in fear-mongering, and refuses to believe that society is intelligent enough to enjoy news about positive elements of society. Rather than embracing the good things celebrities are doing (Angelina, Oprah, etc), they show us how weird it is that they are doing good. Why can't we hear more about positive change... about successful protests... about things people are doing to change the world. Maybe then rather than sitting back and throwing up our hands at how useless it all is, we could start to get inspired to change the world.
Fii
3 years ago
Japan??!
I don't know if Japan is the best example of a culture that doesn't love a strange bit of news once in a while. The online Japanese news sites are sometimes where I go when I need a good laugh.
Whistleblowers BC
3 years ago
Media disinformation & Manipulation
I think part of the issue is that by wasting so much media space on these vapid, shallow and troubled folks the corporate media also shifts attention from more important things. You know, things like how freedom and democracy are being eroded. About the actions of the US around the world and the domestic crisis they have created that is seeing their country rapidly becoming a third world nation. Things like the Security & Prosperity Partnership (SPP) and the North American Union (NAU)and how governments around the world are breaking down national sovereignty and the rights of citizens right under our noses. But, we wouldn't know that because it's front page news someone's checked into rehab ... again.
If you do an unscientific poll, ask around your circles, who have you been bullied more by, who has emotionally and socially damaged you more, I suspect, like myself, you will find most people will answer girls, or women. I don't want to hear anymore crap about self-esteem. Wah, wah, wah. If someone else is prettier, slimmer, smarter, nicer, then grow the heck up and start improving yourself becoming more of what you are jealous, insecure or threatened by. How about the first thing on the list being a better person and for those who are parents of daughters so they don't see you gossip-ing and tearing down other women? How about taking some parental and personal responsibility for teaching your children to be nicer human beings as well? Kids don't pick this kind of behaviour up on their own.
Frankly, previous generations had no idea about "self-esteem" and didn't put any of the gargantuan effort newer generations of parents are into increasing their offsprings "self-esteem" and guess what, they probably had higher self-worth and were a whole lot less narcissistic and nicer people who weren't wasting their lives revelling in the downfall of other human beings. Has anyone else been noticing that on a grand scale, each successive generation is becoming more and more self-absorbed and narcissistic. Social science researchers are and they're finding real evidence of this. Look around your world, are you seeing evidence of it, because I sure am and it scares the heck out of me.
I used to have guilty pleasures of reading some tabloids, watching the occasional entertainment, or "reality" show, but I realized, I'm part of the problem, so I stopped watching and reading that crap and banished it from my life. We can all do that.
Just like we can start teaching our children values of respect, compassion and care for themselves and others. And, we can and should exert parental control over the media content they are exposed to and encourage media criticism. How about letting kids be kids? Here's a novel idea, no cell phones, no porn star t-shirts, no platforms for 5 year olds. Moms and dads, how about we all teach, model and reward our children for kindness, acceptance and inclusion,
I dare you...
realisticman
3 years ago
Whistleblowers BC
Be assured that the publishers and producers of celebrity sensationalism have probably never heard of the SPP or the NAU. Their media may be picayune but it's far less provincial than anyone preoccupied with regional or even international political agreements. If ever there were a pretentious conspiracy theory that is it.
For an intelligent understanding of the evolution of this phenomenon in the USA, and concurrently in Canada, this is worth a read.
http://www.oah.org/pubs/magazine/communication/henderson.html
As for the success of magazines like Paris Match and the British 'Hello' and 'OK', the Spanish Ragazza, and others, one would could probably extrapolate from what Amy Henderson has written.
supercargo
3 years ago
Poor Amy Winehouse. Girls
Poor Amy Winehouse. Girls dressed up as her last Halloween. That's disrespect.
dave49
3 years ago
Catty journalists
Take a look at some of the stuff that shows up on Dose.ca, linked from the canada.com website. There is a small pool of journalists who write 'news' stories and captions to accompany papparazzi photos of stars. The name Jen McDonnell comes to mind. What a fantasy world these journalists live in! Able to write catty and nasty remarks without any cost to them (other than their humanity). The bitchiness and the negative judgements that gush forth are astonishing.
dave49
3 years ago
Self esteem, nastiness
Good post Whistleblowers BC.
For a good article about self-esteem and praising children, see Po Bronson's article in New York Magazine http://nymag.com/news/features/27840/
I also agree with the observation that women can be more nasty. Over the years I have heard my share of workplace stories from my wife and women I know. The stories about women with women bosses who are catty, bitchy, power-hungry, manipulative, nasty, etc. outnumber the stories about male equivalents by ten to one.