With two Pride Houses and refugee counselling for gay athletes, Vancouver may be starting a new Games tradition.

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The Olympics are coming out of the closet.
These Games will have the first ever Pride House. Two of them, actually: one opened yesterday in Whistler in a cocktail lounge, and the other will open in the heart of Vancouver's West End on Thursday. And people are saying, in short, it will be the gayest Olympics ever.
"I would say it was very emotional at the beginning," said Charley Walters, of the opening speeches at the Whistler Pride House, where there were people from cultures where being gay is not only "unacceptable but criminal." He and his reporting partner Tyler Duckworth, from Olympics or Bust, shoot independent Olympic videos for outlets such as MTV. It's the fifth Games they've covered, and while Walters doesn't want to place too much importance on it, he said today he had a sense of history being made, "the birth of something that's bound to be an Olympic staple." Then the party started.
Why here? Why now? According to those involved, it just happens to be the right city at the right time, with a lucky coincidence to start it all off.
No gay business for you, Colorado!
First, the coincidence. In 1992, Brent Benaschak was heading to Vail's Gay Ski Week when Colorado passed a piece of homophobic legislation. He decided to found Whistler Gay Ski Week, rather than give a discriminatory state his money. Now one of the biggest in the world, it's an annual event.
But it's held every February, and no one involved wanted to cancel or relocate this year. So Dean Nelson, who now organizes it, started talking with VANOC and the municipality of Whistler to move the date (it's now in early March). Which got Nelson thinking about the Olympics, how the gay community isn't really represented in it, and how they could be.
Hosted at the luxurious Pan Pacific Hotel, there are sure to be almost non-stop parties at the Whistler Pride House, but Nelson is also trying to celebrate recent successes in wiping out homophobia, and raise awareness about what still needs to change in sport and elsewhere.
"Here, in Canada, it's pretty cushy. If you're gay, you're treated like a real human being," he says, while making last minute preparations for the launch. But being gay is illegal in 14 of the countries participating in the Games, and in two, homosexual acts are punishable by death.
That's why at Vancouver's Pride House, too, even though the focus will be on making people feel welcome and safe, creating a space to meet up with friends and even trade pins, they also want to encourage people share experiences about what conditions are like for gay people in other countries. They'll have maps that show where it's illegal to be gay, where it's punishable by death, where it's legal to be married, where it's not.
And they'll have refugee counsellors on hand. "If there's an athlete, a visitor, or whatever, and they say, 'You know what I can't go back,'" because of facing discrimination in their home country, "we'll have people here to walk them through the process," says Jennifer Breakspear, the executive director of Qmunity, the hosting organization of Vancouver's Pride House that calls itself "BC's queer resource centre." She says maybe no one will claim asylum at these Games, but in almost every Olympics held in a Western nation, at least one person has.
Breakspear says the issue of being gay has really come out of the closet recently. And in addition to her initial idea to create the kind of place she herself would want to visit if she was out of town, she knew the prominence of gay issues in the news made it an auspicious time to be hosting people from around the world. "Anywhere in Canada, same-sex couples can be legally married. We're not in such a tiny club as when this first happened in 2005, but our immediate neighbours to the south are still fighting for this in most of the states. And most of Europe is still working to get legal same sex marriage."
No level-playing field for closeted athletes
Nelson says the Olympics are also a great time to talk about homophobia because eliminating it will help sport itself. He points to Gareth Thomas, the rugby star, who just came out publicly. And who told London's Daily Mail newspapers that it was "like a ticking bomb" to live a secret life, and a huge relief to be out. And to Brendon Burke, Maple Leafs' GM Brian Burke's 21-year-old son, who came out publicly at a news conference with the support of his father, is credited with helping break down homophobic barriers in hockey, and who died tragically this weekend in a snow storm car crash.
Nelson says that being in the closet is like a kind of Achilles heel for athletes. When they're competing, even when they win, "they're scared to death because someone out there might recognize them... and out them." Taking that concern away will allow gay athletes to perform at a higher level, as well as be happier. And it will increase the talent pool: drawing in talented athletes who might otherwise turn away from more macho and homophobic sports.
He says it's possible to get the audiences needed to talk about these issues because it's not just in the world of sport that things are changing. "We have daytime soap operas on TV where there are guys totally making out. We have Glee, with a positive gay character who is the punter on the football team and OK with being in the glee club," says Nelson.
He said seeing positive characters like these is "inspiring," almost like the 1960s and 1970s when "you were starting to see more black characters on TV. Gay people have been an invisible minority, and are now becoming more visible." And the fact that audiences are now used to seeing gay characters on TV means they don't balk at seeing them in the Olympics.
Right time for flaming drag queens on skis
He and Breakspear both said that this is happening partly because of the time, but also because of the place. "Here in Whistler, our community is very very supportive," says Nelson. We celebrate diversity daily... You are given the space to be your complete authentic self. If you are a straight, 80-year-old hippy who wants to ski... or if you want to be a flaming drag queen and ski down the slopes, you can do it."
Breakspear says the same is true of Vancouver. "Vancouver is known for being a pretty darn diverse city... We have one of the best Pride festivals in the world. And we have two of the most well-known and visible gay neighbourhoods: West End and Commercial Drive."
Some fairly high profile people agree. In addition to endorsements from gold-medal athletes like Mark Tewksbury, plus local mayors, Stephen Colbert will be taping his show at the Vancouver Pride House in a couple of weeks.
Back at the Whistler Pride House, Duckworth and Walters say in the future Pride House will almost certainly be at every Games, along with greater acceptance for gay athletes. Though they are self-described "Olympaholics," they insist, above the noise of the celebrations, that "London and Rio will be off the hook!"
"Not to sugar coat it: there are still issues here in Vancouver and Canada," said Breakspear. It's not all sugar plums and fairies being gay. But it's a pretty sweet place to be gay."
So it's a good time and place to "wave the flag," and say "Go, gay athletes, go!" ![[Tyee]](http://thetyee.cachefly.net/ui/img/ico_fishie.png)
Tyee contributing editor Vanessa Richmond writes the Schlock and Awe column about popular culture and the media. She is also the former managing editor of The Tyee.
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dorothy
3 years ago
So what???
It seems to me that blasting the 'gayness' of the Olympics is atrociously superficial, not to mention condesecending.
In the real world, gay people are our colleagues, our family members, our associates and friends of all sorts, who are of meaning and value to us in all these capacities, before we occupy ourselves with their gayness, just like my boss really doesn't care that I'm not a hot chick by way of my age, as long as I deliver the professional output snd the supportive attitude towards the junior set, which they so badly need, besides, of course, being a great gun all around...
Olympics are about sports and business, not about sexual orientation. If Vancouver, which hosts the Olympic games, also happens to be a place where a lot of gay people have found a place they like to live, this is a parameter that may be good, bad or indifferent in its own right. I just don't see how they belong in the same discussion.
Des
3 years ago
Of Course Sexual Orientation
should not be a necessary part of any sports discussion - but it will be a part of every discussion about anything because people are always curious about other people and how they think and how they act on those thoughts.
And when some of those people know they can be discriminated against for those thoughts and/or acts to the point of death, then Sexual Orientation does indeed belong somewhere in every discussion, including sports. And not in a pejorative way. Vanoc could turn out to be a big failure in Canada's owning the podium, or in the slowest ski-hill victories in Olympics history, but if one gay person finds some comfort in Pride House and realizes "personhood" is real, Canada can consider itself one of the international leaders in human rights.
Adam M
3 years ago
dorothy
Why? There's nothing superficial about celebrating gay rights, and I can hardly see how someone can be brow-beaten and condescended to by a gay party. Why can't the Olympics be a celebration of pride as well as sport? Is the rainbow flag under copyright? Why be so exclusive?
No one is forcing you to occupy yourself with gayness. What a bizarre thing to write!
Why shouldn't the Olympics and gayness belong in the same discussion? What do you mean by "discussion?" It's the Olympics, not a fixed topic monologue.
My God do you ever beat around the bush. What's your problem with the gay pavilions exactly?
Is it nausea brought on by perceived political correctness? Are you an Olympics booster who doesn't want to cloud the Olympic dream by being potentially "off message?" Are you uncomfortable with gayness and gay advocacy?
Sorry if I seem to be haranguing you, but I hate reading things that can't get to the point - it's like endless dry humping, it's awful.
barney
3 years ago
At the risk of political incorrectness...
I am sympathetic to Dorothy's rant. Maybe for my own reasons. I think the Olympics is a wasteful charade, a corporate branding exercise staged by ego-manic politicians out to create a legacy for themselves. In the end this corporate gala will make a very few rich and a lot of taxpayers all the more poor. I don't like the fact that minority groups in our society, especially the four First Nations in the lower mainland, have been quietly bought off with huge sums of bribe money to quell dissent and lend legitimacy to this charade.
I view Pride House as just another sellout by another minority group that is willing to sell its soul to the Olympic devil.
Believe me, if VANOC thought it could buy off, confine and quell remaining critics by establishing an official Protest House, they most certainly would try.
Nothing about Pride House or Aboriginal Pavilion or any other such Olympic side show will advance human rights of any kind.
Glen Murtz
3 years ago
oh RLY?
[violins]... and when some of those people know they can be discriminated against for those thoughts and/or acts to the point of death, then Sexual Orientation does indeed belong somewhere in every discussion, including sports...[/violins]
Please - can the drama.
Foreign born people get s*** kicked too. Ask a cab driver some time.
But this isn't about anyone else but you is it?
And hey, while we’re on that (other people thingee), homeless people are set on fire and routinely beaten to death - where’s their counseling house?
Are you so blithely ignorant and so completely self absorbed by your “uniqueness” that you believe that this is a “cultural” issue?
LOL. Seriously. Grow up.
Business is quite aware that a sizeable percentage of professionals with high incomes are gay - *that’s* why this exists. This is about business. To show that this is a lifestyle easily assimilated into a marketing strategy. It’s to sell shit. They get to sell “being gay” as a consumptive choice and dumber queers get to tear up at finally being “accepted” by the Olympic organization. Then they can finally go buy some over-priced mittens because that big, monolithic, profit-driven entity recognizes them for the delicate yet strong-willed, wholly misunderstood idiosyncratic flowers that they are.
Please. Send. More. Gay. Rubes.
You’re here, your queer. We’re used to it.
Now *you* need to acknowledge that identifying yourself as queer opens you up to having “market forces” use that identity to sell you shit.
This is basic, simple, marketing 101.
If you can’t see that, or refuse to acknowledge that “queer” gets used as a branding device signalling “inclusiveness” (like this one), you’re as dumb as those morons that think being queer is wrong.
But hey - pardon me if you’re proud that in lieu of monies going to solve our country-wide housing problem, queers get a lovely booth to “talk about stuff” somewhere up on a mountain.
You must be so proud.
Yammer
3 years ago
Good story Vanessa
Didn't hear about this anywhere else.
Glen Murtz is all cynical and stuff because it is just marketing 101.
Well, yeah, but why not? Surely Vancouverites want to get their money out of this schmoozle. Gays are loaded! This is good advertising. A very smart and cool part of Vancouver's branding. We're San Francisco North? I can totally deal with that.
Along with its being, you know, a gesture of humanity and decency.
alive
3 years ago
minorities my ass
Yeah, yeah. we are crammed with minority groups these days.
Each and every one feel they are special and not recognized for their talent and services.
Let me tell you, it is Hell being average in this country!
We have to watch our every word and action lest it could be taken as some sort of slight.
When is the last time you saw an 'average Joe pavillion"?
Talk about being taken for granted!
Our job is to work quietly and support all these minorities.
Do not get me started on how certain groups seem to have government blessings in whatever endavour they fancy, all in the name of "equality"!
Guess what: I do not feel equal anymore in this country!
I feel used.
dorothy
3 years ago
Adam M
"My God do you ever beat around the bush. What's your problem with the gay pavilions exactly?"
It is exactly that I don't think anyone's pride of who and what they are should live inside a building with a sign on the front. I think it should be out there with everyone else's pride over THEIR special qualities and accomplishments.
By holding pride parades and by making pavilions, we are actually complicit in perpetuating the 'aside' status of gay and lesbian people. My standpoint has always been (yes, always, I was brought up to focus on the relevant things) that the gay people I know are not the gay people I know, but the people I knowm who happen to be gay.
I believe you could have derived that, if you hadn't been so prone to paranoid cherry-picking in reading my intial entry. I think it was clear then also.
As for your observation that "like endless dry humping, it's awful.", I cannot relate. Nature has never served me such cruelty. But I try to sympathize the best I can...
snert
3 years ago
I am just so damned proud.
Not!
Des
3 years ago
Glen M. is really miffed
about my post. But nowhere did I try to justify any particular way of life. To be clear about it, I've been married to the same woman for more than 47 years but have always seen the injustice in denying that same happiness to other men because they are gay. My sympathies have usually been directed toward other countries' citizens in places like Iran, India and now in Uganda. And sometimes in places like the USA, where Matt Shepard was tied to a fence and died because he was gay.
Perhaps the Vanoc Olympics will illuminate and celebrate gay athleticism, and co-incidentally promote their inclusion in other civilized behaviours. It would be nice if we could also accept all qualifications for citizenship in Canada in actual practice as well as on paper.
Glen Murtz
3 years ago
not at all..
I'm annoyed at morons who conflate the fact that queers getting an Olympic "consolation hut" somehow translates into their "finally arriving" in society at large. Grow up. And for you to even dare to invoke the death of a gay man as a legitimation of this marketing gimmick - well - look up the word "trivialize".
You should be ashamed of yourself, but I doubt you're even capable of understanding why.
I can only suppose how elated you will be when Afghani women can have a "Show Your Tits" day sponsored by Hooter's. Cuz you know... they've suffered *so* much.
I'm done with ya.
snert
3 years ago
Glen Murtz
You have a problem with "tits", do you?